Transitioning from your 20s to your 30s can be quite stressful. You might be scared of losing that youthful fire and passion, especially in your sex life. Are you going to want your partner as much as you did before? Is your libido doomed to continue decreasing as the years go by? Asking yourself all those questions can be especially distressing.
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For men, testosterone plays a major role in libido. The higher the amount of this hormone they have, the stronger their sexual appetite and desire to satisfy it will be. It also allows them to have erections on a daily basis.
Men's testosterone levels are very high throughout their twenties. This translates as them being able to have a lot of intercourse with little rest in between. But while it's all easy breezy when you're young, what happens when you hit your 30s?
Libido in your 30s
The National Coalition for Sexual Health explains that men over the age of thirty do experience testosterone loss... but it's very minimal. Every year, they lose about 1%. Of course, these figures vary from one man to the next.
But the New England Research Institute conducted a survey of 1,500 men between the ages of 30 and 79, and the results are clear: one in four men in a given age bracket has less testosterone than those in the age bracket below theirs.
Other factors can of course be taken into account: fatigue, stress, alcohol consumption, and taking medication play a part. Being stuck in a routine with your partner can also decrease your libido. Of course, a lack of sexual desire is not inevitable, and there are ways to work around it.
How do you give your libido a boost?
If your sex drive is lower than you'd like, start by looking into your lifestyle. You can cut down on alcohol and try to have a healthier diet, for example. Magnesium supplements might help, as well as vitamins C, B5 or B12. If despite making those changes, the problem persists, don't hesitate to talk to a doctor or a sex therapist.
As for your relationship, try to get some one-on-one time and spoil each other, and don't be shy about spicing things up in the bedroom. Either way, the best solution is to communicate! If you feel like your sex drive is waning, talk to your partner. It's important not to sweep misunderstandings under the rug, because that may cause both you and your partner to feel blocked.
