Sometimes, when in a relationship, you may want to spice up your sex life a bit. If you're a fan of the Kama Sutra, you've probably already tried the union of oyster position, a variant of the missionary position but much more sensual, or the rutting of the deer position, which wakes up the beast that was sleeping inside you. But if you still feel like trying something new, we advise you to try shibari.
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What is shibari?
Shibari means binding, or Japanese bondage, which is a first clue to the practice that follows. Originally, shibari was used to bind prisoners, but not in just any way. Depending on their rank in society, they were tied with specific knots. It then evolved into an erotic practice.
When shibari is practised, it is done gradually, with a certain slowness. This is what creates the sensuality. You can start by tying any part of the body (feet, chest, hands...) Little by little, your partner can be immobilised in the most famous position called the hogtie. The person is placed on their stomach and their feet and hands are bound by a clever combination of ropes made of plants (hemp, jute, etc…).
Rules for shibari
As with all somewhat ‘extreme’ practices, some clear and simple rules must be established to ensure that the experience is carried out in the best possible conditions. First of all, it is necessary that both partners are totally in agreement with the fact of practising shibari.
Next, a dialogue should be held to express the limits of each party and then a ‘safe word’ should be established. This is a word, any word, which when uttered by one of the two participants automatically stops the act. It is of course necessary to respect these rules.
